Peace in our time!

Appeasement today raised its ugly head in two different guises. The first was a young lady who told me her husband was a brick off a full hod and she had left him some years ago. Fair enough! Then she went back to him because he kept banging on about topping himself if she did not. Now she is trapped, with a man who will not confront his demons, is giving her secondary trauma and she just lives for the days he is not being savaged by his depression. Sad and no way to live is it. But many of us do it and emotional black mail comes in many forms.

The second was once again a lady and friend who is being blackmailed into doing the dutiful thing by her less than beguiling sibling. However, she has friends, which mean its not a lonely experience and sooner or later she is going to loose her chuff with the person concerned. Something to look forward to in one respect, in that she has not lost her temper since 1982... so should be something to watch. In this case it is the sibling thinking he is owed something that in actuality has been repaid many times in many ways and is now wearing thin. I half wish I could watch the lady concerned going "nuclear" I bet some stuff, long repressed, comes out that day.. Phew!

Its a funny thing about people, many of them love to have an edge over others for reasons of ego, self worth (or lack of it) or just good old fashioned psychotic behavior. One sees the most marginal talents being used to Lord it over others and the only reason the looser gets away with it is because the recipient has no wish to face the bully (for that is what they are) down or cannot fight back because the abhor confrontation, or lack self worth.

Do not think it is all women being down cast for it is not and many a man is bullied on a constant basis. It is not well understood and usually goes unreported simply because the man feels ashamed. I should no for a while I was bullied by a women and its not a nice experience and not easy to rectify. And yet I expect I've bullied in my time to. I can be a right arrogant arsehole sometimes. Although, not for the want of ego. In my case its that I get wrapped up in the argument or the moment and sometimes I dont know when to shut up.  Hence no doubt the need to Blog.... erm there is a complicated thought.

I was working on a car today and came across something I had not seen in a while. A totally rounded of bolt on a VW. Now VWs are very well built and the steel used is very tough. To round a bolt off like that must have been some task or performed by a gorilla in a very bad temper. I just hope I can find another way to save the lock im trying to replace or its going to be very interesting.

I have a friend in Canada who lives on the Canadian side of the Rockie mountains. Its a wild and remote area and she frequently finds big bear in her back porch..She just sent me a lovely photo of a wild mustang at the bottom of her garden which sums up the beauty of the area she live in.

I met Sue at Talbot House in Belgium and very interesting women she is. She helps veterans with PTSD and has written a book concerning the first world war.

Sue also has an uncanny ability to tap into the paranormal. I once took her to an aircraft museum she had never been to or knew anything about and she told me a certain plane had a presence. She was of course correct. I knew it but she could not have done. Very impressive. Sue also uses some old native american ways to heal veterans called the way of the warrior. Makes for interesting reading and Sue is well thought of in Canada by the military there and stayed with me for a while a couple of years ago.